Life: Can Someone Please Enlighten Me On Relationship?

Are you sure you completely trust men again? Would you be 100 percent certain that he will never lie (exclude the small white lies)? I have been pondering these questions a bit for sometime. I can't say confidently that I can ever trust men again. Of what had happened over some period of time, only did I realised I have a fragile heart. Believe it or not, I have scores of failed relationships in hand which sometimes I did not know how to deal with. How can I recognise the dark side of that man who always have interests at heart for me? Or vice versa. Maybe I am destined to be an old spinster. Well, I can accept that, though. Not that we, modern women these days need to rely on men like those days with women expected to be in the kitchen and men are the sole breadwinner. For some reasons, I am no good in human affectionate relationship (apply to men only). Can someone decode it for me?

Problem #1

He constantly tells lies but will never wanted to admit even when he was caught red-handed! It was a brows-frowning moment when he does not want to admit his acts during and after he was busted. I mean what kind of man will do this if they really love the woman with all his heart? Does he feel overwhelmingly happy and superior when he did that? Please lar. If lying is one of your bestest skill, you should utilize that to the highest degree to cheat money in casino. Oh, of course if you have the brain!

Problem #2 

A smart man has always been lusted over but a weak man will always be the most useless bloke. Judging from the deteriorating stability of emotions, here is the crucial time ending the stay with the bloke. Crying for sympathy often will portray him as a needy and weak person. But I will ask you go to hell lor, cause this is very irritating and hair raising experience like a wolf howling over the full moon. 

Problem #3 

Taking women for granted will only bring disaster in every man's relationship because it is apparent that he does not appreciate what he have. Women have been portrayed as empty status symbols and decorative objects of male desire. Some men just assume all females are equal to those dumb blondes. To them, the intellect part incorporated in us is not arousing so why bother if they do not have inclination towards brainy women? So hor, please do not be devastated when they are female presidents leading the country. Because some men do not have the capability as the women. And oh, the intelligence of a woman is a valuable asset when it comes to the marriage market!

Venting like a mad woman here is not a good idea. I might as well spend my time watching The Sesame Street online. At least they make me laugh and I am not feeling pissed from the top of the entry to the bottom. I was so mad, so mad that I could initiate the volcanic rocks for eruption. But again, I do not expect so much in a guy in a relationship. He only needs to check these boxes:

Check 1: Educated and not a moron of course

Check 2: Accept opinionated and articular woman

Check 3: Emotionally stable - be the real man

Check 4: Respect a woman - no violence against women 

Check 5: Has a stable career and financially healthy 

Check 6: Mature, trustworthy, astute, and level-headed

Check 7: Average Joe is acceptable

 

 

Life: I Have Complicated Life or I Make It Complicated?

I have been trapped in this dilemma for too long that I could not even remember when it first started. Many people advise me while I am in a relationship, enjoy the joyous, precious and memorable moment together. Yes, it is true. I could never deny that but love is love. We need to do reality check from time to time. Tonnes of worries clouded my mind when I was thinking to commit myself in a relationship. Friends told me I think too much, colleagues said that just go with the flow, my heart tells me please come back to reality, and, and, and....I am just too confused. Honestly, my thoughts is rather orthodox and so unconventional. For me, I love being fed than to fed. 

 If I planned to go on a long journey with this guy, I have to consider this:

- his earnings is lesser than mine for now. Yes, for now it's okay but will the figure in the pay check will not increase much or that's it. That's his limitations. Without a preferred education level these days is a disadvantage and of course, your pay will never be good.

- i am pursuing my master's degree in a few months time and I hope (crossing my fingers) to graduate with MBA soon and he is only a high school graduate. Obviously, there is going to be gaps between us - communication, understanding, perception, knowledge, maturity, etc. The question is, will the relationship survive or it will just be another history?

- my parents will never wanted to accept him if his qualification is so much lower than mine. My cousin's wife left him because they weren't level headed. His wife has a PhD whereas he himself only has a basic degree. At times, his wife thinks he does not fathom what she meant and he never gets her right when it comes to understanding. 

Do I abandon this relationship or do I foresee everything and proceed? 

Will my future be better without him or removing him out from the picture is a better start? 

  

I don't want a househusband in the future, definitely. I want him to be the man of the house and is wise enough to make his own decisions. 

Hmph....I make my life complicated isn't it?